(那时候的我,一直都在想,依赖和恋爱到底有什么不一样?如果过去一切的一切都只是我的错觉而已,那我过去的感觉也未免太过逼真,真实了。)

Yes, this is a world which belong to me, where i can express myself freely here. But this is not a normal world. At here, snow is no longer white; shiny day also won't appear here. Here is the hell for a dark angel, a world which belong to the dark angel.

♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Thursday 27 August 2009

Friday 21 August 2009

好事?还是坏事?

忽然间。。。
发现自己很久没有写部落格了,
“自己写” 的定义是:
不是从某某处抄回来的故事或者文章咯。。。

原来。。。
自己只有在心情低落时,
脑子释放负能量时,
才会写部落格。。。

那。。。
很久没写。。。
是好事?
还是坏事呢?

是自己很久没有不开心了?
还是已经麻木了?

Thursday 20 August 2009

Did I Marry The Right Person?

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here....

Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU .

Falling in love is easy . It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship . Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages breakdown . People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.

But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or a spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.The right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, just as certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make"love .

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always :

"GOD determines who walks into ur life. It is up to u to decide who u let to walk away, who u let to stay, and who u refuse to let go."

Wednesday 19 August 2009

Commandments

Commandment 1
Marriages are made in heaven
But then again, so is thunder and lightning.

Commandment 2
If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say,
Talk in your sleep.

Commandment 3
Marriage is grand - and divorce is at least a 100 grand!

Commandment 4
Married life is very frustrating.
In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

Commandment 5
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing:
Either the car is new or the wife is.

Commandment 6
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;
The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

Commandment 7
Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said.
After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

Commandment 8
Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook.
But the law allows only one wife.

Commandment 9
Marriage and love are purely a matter of chemistry.
That is why one treats the other like toxic waste.

Commandment 10
A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.

Bonus Commandment Story
A long married couple came upon a wishing well.
The wife leaned over, made a wish and threw in a penny.
The husband decided to make a wish too.
But he leaned over too much, fell into the well, and drowned.
The wife was stunned for a moment,
But then smiled,
“It really works!”

Monday 17 August 2009

幸福 !?

一天女孩过生日,男孩子在她生日的聚会上送了她一只可爱的毛毛熊,在各种生日礼物中,这根本算不上是礼物.

  女孩有些生气,也许更多的是愤怒,没想到自己男朋友这么小气,今天是她的生日,还来了这么多朋友.

  去年男孩在她生日的时候送了她一把很名贵的藏刀,男孩发誓说,如果有一天他背叛了女孩,女孩可以用刀划破他的胸膛.

  今年,两个人一直在讨论两个人的未来,这么多朋友都来为女孩庆祝生日,是男孩说在生日哪天会给女孩一个终生难忘的礼物.结果似乎一切都出乎大家的以外,当然主要是女孩!

  面对女孩愤怒的眼神,男孩只是坏坏的笑,这份礼物真的让女孩终生难忘.

  女孩在聚会中喝了很多酒,而男孩只是在旁边静静的喝着可乐.

  聚会结束,他们要回到自己的小家,上了三环,女生一直很愤怒,一直在埋怨,车的后排座放了很多名贵的礼物,当然还有那只毛毛熊.女生开始抱怨男孩不爱她,不珍惜他们的爱,男孩只是静静的开着车,什么也没有说,偶尔会有一丝笑在脸上.

  酒精在冲动的驱使下发作了.女孩吐了,男孩靠边停了车,女孩大发脾气,指责男孩给了她这样一个不愉快的生日,说了一些很伤感情的事情,男孩一直无语, 只是一只手拿着纸巾,一只手拿着矿泉水.女孩突然跑到了三环主路,男孩没有拉住她,两个人就这样在公路上拉扯着,突然,一辆飞驰的快车直奔两个人行驶过 来,男孩想都没想的扔掉了手中的东西.推开了女孩,女孩的头重重的摔到了地上,等她苏醒的时候,她已经躺在了医院,头上绑着绷带.

  那辆飞速行驶汽车的司机,证明是酒后驾车.

  男孩被撞出了15米,当120到的时候,他嘴里一边涌着血一直说着〃别管我,看我女朋友怎么样?

  到了医院,男孩已经去了另一个世界,他最后的一话是毛毛熊,毛毛熊在他的要求下,被医护人员带上了救护车,他在这个世界上最后的一段路,就是这只小熊一直陪着他.

  女孩得知男孩离去的消息,一直在哭,哭的昏过去了好几次.

  一个有心的护士把小熊送到了她的枕边.

  女孩再一次从昏厥中醒来,看着小熊,上边有着男孩的血,似乎有着男孩的体温,她紧紧的把它抱在了胸前,轻轻的抚摩着它,突然摸一件很硬的东西,女孩从 小熊的口袋里摸出了一件东西,一个戒指盒,里面有一枚漂亮的钻石戒指,女孩看到这一切,彻底崩溃了,她拼命的哭,用力的撕着自己的头发和头上的绷带,但是 一切似乎都没有意义了.

  女孩去了太平间,那是的男孩身上的血迹已经被擦干,他干干净净的,安详的躺在那里,嘴角还是有着一丝坏坏的笑,女孩用手抚摩着男孩的头,泪水从眼角划落,她不想哭出声,因为男孩不喜欢她哭.

  女孩第二天就出院了,回到了他们的屋子~

  打开房门,她被眼前的一切惊呆了,房间里满是玫瑰,桌子上有一个大大的蛋糕,旁边的一个保温餐盒和一张卡片.

  打开餐盒里面是她最爱喝的汤.

  打开卡片里面写着:

  嫁给我,你一辈子都不会后悔,你一辈子都会感觉温暖,我会一辈子让你幸福,我会一直守侯在你的身边,我会每天叫你起床,为你做你喜欢的早餐,送你上 班,时刻惦记你,随时给你电话和信息,不让孤独的感觉伴随你一时一刻,晚上我会接你下班,为你做晚饭,晚上让你在我的怀中睡去后再静静睡去.家里事情你做 主,但是家务还是我来吧,我身体比较好点.如果应酬,我会在11点前回家,如果出差我会把你这几天食物准备好,当然还有你爱吃的零食.其实爱情就是简简单 单两个人的幸福,我们的幸福才刚刚开始,希望……

  女孩再也看不下去了,她看到了房间里仿佛满使他们的欢声笑语,满是他们的蜜语甜言,往日的情景一下子,涌入了她的心头,她在自责,在懊悔,在埋怨……

  想着到底是谁背叛了那曾经美好的东西.

  曾经的幸福这个时候变的尖锐,曾经的欢笑这个时候变的灰色.

  男孩火化的那天女孩没有去.

  女孩一个人静静的呆在他们爱的屋子,看着他们出去旅游时的录象,轻轻的用去年生日哪天男孩送他那把藏刀割开了自己的手腕……

  窗头放着一张卡片:

  亲爱的我来了,没有你的日子我好难过.

  是我错了,你走的这几天,我一直在回味我们在一起的日子,你的体温你的气味你的坏笑和你做的饭,你是个骗子你说过一生守护我的,没有你,一个人睡觉好冷的,没有你做饭我肚子好饿,没有你在身边我好孤单,你慢点走,我来了,虽然你没有实现你的承诺,但是我还是真的爱你,坏蛋我来了,慢点走,在前面等我, 我来了……

Thursday 6 August 2009

Music @ Songs

First of all, i want to ask a question which is totally irrelevant to the title.

"What happen to me?"

Recently i keep on feeling uncomfortable or uneasy on something, but i don't know what is it. I feel like everything is not on the right track; like something weird had happen (but i don't know what happen actually), is just some feeling that keep creep me out. Until yesterday, i think i figure it out. For some reason, something or someone that i thought i had let it go long ago; in fact, it doesn't, it still alive within me (somehow somewhere within me).

How i figure this out? Well, last night i was listening to music while i am driving home. In fact, it is just a song, one particular song that i played it repeatedly for the whole journey home. It is a chinese song, a new song "Tank - 如果我变成回忆"...
It is a sad song; and i was touched by the lyrics so much. The song keep on playing and playing; my mind keep on flash back some memories, very clear yet blur memories, which i confused so much. I thought i had let it go. But why now still able to haunt me? I don't know. But i do know, very weird, i enjoy the moment, the silent moment, me alone in the car listening to the repeated same song, i enjoy this moment, is like the world had freeze and it just left me alone. But too bad, such a nice song, very touching lyrics which pull me deep into deep dreamy imagination; but in reality, i never had such imagined moment in my life.

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OMG! What i am typing now? What i try to tell here? I don't know anymore...
Well, just share this song's lyric here; please enjoy it...

Tank - 如果我变成回忆

累了 照惯例努力清醒着
也照惯例 想你了
好怕一放心睡了
心跳在梦中 不听话的 就停止了

听着 呼吸像浪潮拍动着
越没力越让我忐忑
我还能珍惜什么
如果我连自己的脉搏 都难掌握

如果我变成回忆 退出了这场生命
留下你错愕哭泣 我冰冷身体 拥抱不了你
想到我让深爱的你 人海孤独旅行
我会恨自己 如此狠心

如果我变成回忆 终于没那么幸运
没机会白着头发 蹒跚牵着你 看晚霞落尽
漫长时光总有一天你会伤心痊愈
若有人可以 让他陪你 我不怪你

快乐 什么时候会结束呢
哪一刻是最后一刻
想把你紧紧抱着
可知你是我生命中的 最舍不得

如果我变成回忆 最怕我太不争气
顽固地赖在空气 霸占你心里 每一寸缝隙连累
依然爱我的你痛苦承受失去
这样不公平 请你尽力 把我忘记

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Monday 3 August 2009

小女生大氣度

女生氣度

有一對小姐妹每天放學後,一定會一起到我們的便利商店光顧,因為這對姐妹乍看之下與其他人並無不同,甚至普通到讓人過目即忘,直到我見識到她們之間相處模式那一刻開始。

這個姐姐的外表看來文文靜靜,但脾氣卻異常火爆,每次到店裡來,總會看見她嚴厲的對妹妹進行「機會教育」,最常聽見的有;

「妳是笨蛋嗎?這個快要到期了,還拿。」

要不然就是:
「妳是白癡呀!明明寫買一送一,妳還只拿一個。」

更狠的還有:
「妳這隻豬,金額超過了妳不會算嗎?」
等等之類的。

那個挨罵的妹妹,居然一聲也不吭的就任由姐姐罵,還依然氣定神閒的挑選她想要的東西,且絲毫不受影響。

某天又到了放學時間,但令人意外的是這天只有妹妹一個人來,我見那個潑辣的姐姐不在,於是便和她聊起天來。

「妹妹,今天怎麼只有妳一個人?」
我問。

「姐姐感冒了,所以請假。」
妹妹朝我一笑,樣子相當可愛。

「我覺得妳姐姐好兇喔!」
我試探性的表示。

「還好啦!不要理她就好了。」
妹妹在賣場逛著,神情相當愉快。

「可是她每天都那樣罵妳,妳不生氣嗎?」
我好奇的問。

「愛生氣的人是她又不是我,而且被罵一下又不會痛。」
妺妹嘟嘟嘴道。

是嗎?小小年紀居然可以這麼豁達,真是不可思議,反觀自己,也許是從小就養尊處優慣了,所以現在才會稍微被責備一下就難過得想死,吃了點虧就非得要據理力爭不可,在精神層面她真是比我強太多了.......。

「阿姨,我要買這個。」
妹妹拿著一支冰棒到櫃檯來結帳了,我一看正好是促銷品,於是對她道:
「妹妹,這個現在買一送一喔!妳可以再去拿一支。」
我以為她的反應一定和其他小朋友一樣,先是眼睛一亮然後滿心歡喜,不料她卻對我說:
「可是我現在只想吃一支就好,另外一支就送給別人好了。」
說完對我揮揮手便走了。

看著妹妹一蹦一跳的離去,我忽然有很深的感觸,這個小女孩太特別了,甚至讓我覺得在某方面我必須向她學習。

挨罵,她可以不在意;多的,她也不貪心,如果有人都能以這麼簡單、純真的心來面對這世界,我想紛爭與悲劇應該就可以終止了吧!

一個人的快樂,不是因為他擁有的多,而是因為他計較的少。

要恢復赤子之心..........
我們都還要多多努力耶!!

........互勉之^^

白領階級

今天發了薪水,交了房租、水電瓦斯費,買了油、米和泡麵, 摸摸口袋剩下的錢,感歎一聲:

這月薪水又 “白領” 了!